9 Tips to Learn How To Love Yourself
Once upon a time there was a girl who thought she was fat and ugly.
She hated herself.
She didn’t have confidence to get a better job or a boyfriend, and she didn’t feel happy.
Then one day she woke up thinking she was beautiful and skinny.
She loved herself.
She had confidence, she was happy, she got a better job and a boyfriend.
Nothing about her changed, but they way she viewed herself.
Sound familiar? It might. haha, cause it’s plot line to I Feel Pretty.
It is a good movie, so if you haven’t seen it yet, do. It gives you a good perspective. And who doesn’t love Amy Schumer? Funny. Good stuff.
Think of all the things you could accomplish, how happy you could be, and the potential you could reach if you chose to love yourself for who you are and where you are.
“When we feel confident, we engage circuits involved in reward and pleasure and we literally feel good. And not only do we feel good, but those around us feel good too. Confidence leads others to be more engaged with you, be it your troops, your patients, your clients, colleagues, kids, or friends.” –Dr. Stacie Grossman Bloom
Loving yourself generates self-confidence, which generates happiness and the cycle continues until we truly feel it and our brains know it!
There have been several studies that link our self-confidence to our success and happiness in life. So LOVE YOURSELF!
How do you know if you love yourself? If you have to answer no to a majority of the following questions, then you don’t love yourself enough.
Do you like yourself?
Do you feel happy?
Do you deserve happiness?
Are you OK with where you are in life?
Do you think you’re pretty?
Do you think you’re a good person?
Do you deserved to be loved?
Did you answer “no” to most of these questions? Really ponder them, and answer honestly. Are the actions you take on a daily basis show that you believe these things? Do you take time for yourself? Do you have confidence? Are you working toward a goal or dream you’ve always had?
If you don’t love yourself. START. I know it sounds too easy. But maybe it doesn’t have to be as hard as you think.
9 Tips on How to Love Yourself
1. Stop listening to yourself
Stop listening to the critic inside your head. You are probably the hardest person on yourself. Shut out the negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Don’t compare yourself to others because usually you’re comparing your weaknesses to their strengths. We ALL have weakness and we ALL have strengths. Recognize your qualities, talents, and strengths and focus on those. Choose to see the good, always and only. Stop that critic in your head, it’s dumb!
Stop listening to others
The people that don’t care about you or think much of you are NOT much to think about.
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind, don’t matter, and those who matter, don’t mind.” -Dr. Seuss
Don’t listen to what other people have to say about you. Don’t let them dictate how you feel about yourself. You can be who YOU want to be. You are YOU, so be the BEST you that you can be!
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” – Eleanor Roosevelt
Be okay with where you are at
Be okay with where you are at in life. If you don’t like it, change it, or work towards something better. The only person holding you back is you. Be grateful for who are are now.
“Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality. Upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.” -DeVon Franklin
It’s okay if you feel like you want to lose a few pounds. Don’t hate the person who has to lose the weight, she’s still amazing, but be confident and believe that THAT person can be who she wants to be. Don’t hate the person you are, just believe in the person you can become. Be content with where you are, knowing you can always improve. Beating yourself up doesn’t get you anywhere.
Be patient with Yourself
Be patient with yourself. Don’t think that you can change something over night. Don’t think that you have to be super mom, or friend, or sister or whatever high exception you have set for yourself. You’re human, you’re going to make mistakes. But don’t let that dictate your self-esteem. Don’t be so hard on yourself especially when it comes to being a mom. You are doing the best you can. You can’t be the perfect parent, just the parent your kids need.
Allow yourself to change
Don’t get stuck in the mindset that you are a certain way because, well… that’s just the way it is. If you want to change. Change. It might take hard work, dedication, and a few tears, but you can do it. Allow yourself to be the person you want to be.
“In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.” – Andrea Dykstra
Don’t be afraid to live
Just because you’re a mom, doesn’t mean you can’t personally discover, grow, learn, set goals and ultimately LIVE. Your kids learn best through example. Don’t be afraid to go after what life has to offer. You are not stuck, you can dream, and you can overcome your obstacles. Let yourself enjoy life. Take life by the reins and hold on. Don’t let life control you. Take control of life.
“A ship in the harbor is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for.” – John A Shedd
Be confident in yourself. Know that you are amazingly you, and no body else can be you, BUT YOU! Again, focus on your strengths, on the positive, and be confident in those things.
Surround yourself with good, positive people
Surround yourself with the best people. Cut people out of your life who are toxic to you. And I’m not saying you have to be mean, or nasty (unless the situation is dire). Surround yourself with people who uplift you, make you feel good about yourself, and have your best intentions at heart.
Be willing to let go
It’s pretty hard to have love in your heart when you’re holding on to a grudge or the past. Be willing to let go and forgive the people who have hurt you, or who you blame for making you into something you hate. Let go of the past and look forward with faith into the future.
“Your future is only as bright as your faith.” – Thomas S. Monson
Love yourself! Practice loving yourself. Think positive thoughts and affirmations. Don’t let people degrade you, and certainly don’t listen to the critic inside your head.
Loving yourself is a huge part of living a happy, more fulfilling life. Be positive about the way you think of yourself, and others will think the same of you!